Tuesday, 20 September 2016

10 Ways To Help Others That Will Lead You To Success

John Hall , CEO of Influence & Co.,

Helping others should be a natural extension of every business leader’s responsibilities. Unfortunately, it doesn’t come as easy as you would think. As leaders, we often get too caught up in operations or our own problems to give people the help they need. However, in the last year, I’ve realized that most of my best clients, partners and relationships have come from me helping someone. Here are 10 thoughts that can remind you to help others.

1.      Sharing knowledge
One of the easiest ways to help others is to simply share your knowledge. You don’t have to be in front of a classroom to teach. Every day there is an opportunity to educate someone about your area of expertise. The key is to keep educating yourself so you can stay ahead of the curve.

2.      Finding out what’s valuable to them
The number one rule of helping people should be to find out what’s actually valuable to someone. You may spend time and effort helping someone with something that they didn’t even want help with. Make an effort to ask them where they need help, and keep that in mind when you see an opportunity.

3.      Sharing your resources
Think about the resources you’ve invested in and be mindful of whether they can help someone else. Maybe a developer on your team has some extra time and one of your contacts needed some help on a quick job. Or, maybe you have Cardinals season tickets and there’s a game that you won’t be able to attend. Keep those under- or unused resources in the back of your mind and try to connect them to people who can use them.

4.      Making them aware of an opportunity
It’s important to keep an eye out for opportunities. It could be good press, a potential partner, or a general business opportunity. Once you see an opportunity, think about who could benefit from knowing about it. One of the ways I like to help my employees is to help their friends, relatives or significant others if they’re looking for a job. A lot of times I can use my business connections to find a potential good fit.

5.      Giving them transparent feedback
Transparent feedback can be tough because some people don’t take constructive criticism well.  There is a difference between telling someone that they suck and giving them good examples of how they can improve.  Some people won’t take it well but, in the long run, you will help the people that you want to work with and improve the efficiency and success of your company as well.

6.      Being a brand advocate
I was at a conference the other day and an American Airlines employee was going on and on about how she loved her Modify watch. She truly wanted to help the company because she loved the product and wanted to see them succeed. Think about the products and services that you love, and don’t be shy about letting people know about them.

7.      Giving introductions
There’s a lot of big talk out there. Someone knows somebody who is a great contact or client, but they never actually make the introduction. Rather than making and breaking promises, make an effort to actually send out several intros each week. However, don’t let your credibility take a hit: make sure the people you’re advocating are legit.

8.      Volunteering your time
Time is valuable and most people understand that.  When you take time out of your day to help a friend, they remember it. I try and do a guest webinar every couple of weeks for contacts so they know I’m willing to take time out of my day to share my experience with the community. Even if it’s not something as public as a webinar or podcast, set aside some time to help a contact. It could be as simple as helping them move to a new home.

9.      Recognizing them
There are a variety of ways to give someone recognition. You can include them in an article that you’ve written or mention them in a speech or presentation. An easy way to recognize someone is to nominate them for an award. There are countless awards out there that could really help out your network. It will mean a lot to the nominee that you thought of them and wanted to recognize them. On a smaller scale, you can have internal recognition within your company. We have an award called “the belt” that looks like a WWF belt. Each week the current winner chooses the next winner. It’s an easy way to make an employee feel good about the solid work they’ve done for your company.

10.   Giving gifts
Gifts can be tricky because you don’t want to “buy” peoples’ favor. You want to get them a gift that makes sense and will help them.  When Hurricane Sandy hit, we sent care packages with items that survivors could use as they recovered from the devastation. People tend to remember who helped them when they were in need, so it’s important to make an extra effort during these times.

Helping others isn’t always easy. It can sometimes derail your schedule and cost you time, money and other resources. It can even be interpreted the wrong way. However, keep these tips in mind for some easy ways to show your connections that they truly matter to you.

Thursday, 30 January 2014

Gratitude Vs frustration

Any frustration you have is simply the result of wrong thinking.  If you were thinking rightly you could not possibly imagine that anything was going 'wrong'. 

Move, then to gratitude when you encounter your frustrations and see every event as an opportunity.

Thursday, 31 October 2013


   In the world around us, darkness is just absence of light. But in the inner dimension of the human being, darkness is absence of clarity.

Diwali is known as the Festival of Lights. It is the festival of lights and killing the darkness inside ourselves. It is the day of lightning the house and the soul of our kind but unfortunately the concept is misconceiver and the day is getting the meaning of loud hard music in the houses.
It is also a celebration of clarity and enlightenment. May this Diwali be not just a Festival of Lights, but also a celebration of taking a step towards enlightenment. It is my wish and my blessing that you must have a cracker of a Diwali !

Festival full of sweet memories,sky full of fireworks,mouth full of sweets,house full of deepaks and heart full of pleasure.

Wishing you all a very Happy Diwali 2013 once again !!! :)

Begin this Diwali by bursting the E-cracker present in the right side of this post. :)

Sunday, 27 October 2013


Never change your originality for the sake of others, 
because no one can play your role better than you.
So be yourself, because whatever you are, YOU are the best. Now that's a Positive Attitude.

 Story: The Thirst

There is a legend of a man who was lost in the desert, dying of thirst. He stumbled on until he came to an abandoned house. Outside the dilapidated, windowless, weather beaten, deserted shack was a pump. He stumbled forward and began pumping furiously, but no water came from the well. Then he noticed a small jug with a cork at the top and a note written on the side: "You have to prime the pump with water, my friend. P.S. And fill the jug again before you leave." He pulled out a cork and saw that the jug was full of water.

Should he pour it down the pump? What if it didn't work? All of the water would be gone. If he drank the water from the jug, he could be sure he would not die of thirst. But to pour it down the rusty pump on the flimsy instruction written on the outside of the jug?

Something from inside told him to follow the advice and choose the risky decision. He proceeded to pour the whole jug of water down the rusty old pump and furiously pumped up and down. Sure enough, the water gushed out! He had all he needed to drink. He filled the jug again, corked it and added his own words beneath the instructions on the jug:
Believe me, it really works. You have to give it all away before you can get anything back."

Happy weekend folks..!!! :)


Friday, 25 October 2013


            Good Morning...have a blessed Saturday & great weekend.

            ‘It is okay to be at a place of struggle.'

       Struggle is just another word for growth. Even the most evolved beings find themselves in a place of struggle now and then. In fact, struggle is a sure sign to them that they are expanding; it is their indication of real and important progress.


Diwali is fast approaching..!! Happy Diwali in advance folks..!!! :)

Monday, 21 October 2013


Its that time!  Oh yeah!

                                                           Time to celebrate!
Celebrate what you ask?

Anything!   Everything!   Who cares?
Get up off your chair.   Take a look around you.  Take a deep breath.  Oh, yeah, you are BREATHING!  Is that not incredible!  Is that not worth celebrating?
So!  Pop in your favorite CD.   Go on…  Turn it up.   WAY UP!
Now…  start celebrating!   Sing!  Dance! Get groovy! Raise those hands!  Praise!   Shout!  Do the happy dance!
YOU are here!   YOU are alive!   YOU can FEEL!   YOU can MOVE!
Go on.   MOVE!!!   (yes, I am yelling at you!  lol.. :D )
No excuses.  Never mind who is sitting or standing next to you.  We ALL need to get up and move.   We ALL need to take a moment to celebrate our own life.  I bet if we all got in the practice of being a little more thankful for our ability to breath, we might see the world as a little more precious.  We might see our neighbor as a little more endearing.  We might look at our loved ones with a little more appreciation.
So go on. Celebrate!

Sunday, 20 October 2013



   Without enough sleep I find myself struggling—moving through my day the way it feels to move through water.  Everything is harder and slower and I feel stressed all day because I have to push myself to focus and be alert. Besides the headaches this gives me, I have much less energy, am less creative, and can only concentrate on one thing at a time instead of being able to handle several things at once. Moreover, when I am so low on energy, I tend to isolate myself and not interact as much with friends or to participate spontaneously in conversations. I'll usually resort to having coffee to try and boost my energy and alertness levels but the caffeine high only works for a short period. Afterward, I'll be even more tired because my body has been running on overdrive. It's not a good way to operate.

  Over the years, I've learned that the best thing I can do for my health and for enjoying my life is to get at least eight hours of sleep a night (individuals vary in the number of hours for optimal sleep). Even a deficit of half an hour a night makes a difference. Because I know this about my body and because I cannot enjoy the moments of my days—ordinary or otherwise—if I am not fully present, there are other areas of my life I will skimp on before I skimp on sleep. For example, I will consciously choose to give up late-night or early-morning activities to make sure I get enough sleep. This isn't the best way to operate either but the discomfort I feel never equals how bad I feel to have to slog through on too little sleep. In terms of affecting the quality of my work, sleep is the single most important tool I have.

I love sleeping.Sleep well.Stay healthy !! :P